Tom Champoux, president of Effectiveness Institute, explores the key characteristics of people who are often promoted.
The reality is very clear – those who are capable, competent and likeable are the first to be promoted. They are the men and women who have technical knowledge and expertise balanced with the appropriate people skills; the ability to have others willingly follow their lead.
Likeable is such a misunderstood word. It is not being nice-nice or great at socializing or meeting the right people. It doesn’t mean I can’t get frustrated or have a bad day. Likeable means respectful treatment, honoring the dignity of others, not embarrassing them. It means listening, taking time and giving credit. It means avoiding the use of position power at almost all costs. It requires vulnerability and the willingness to admit mistakes. It means people are appreciative or happy when you walk into the room, not when you walk out of it. I would like to work for that person….wouldn’t you?
The next group of “promote-ables” are those with technical expertise alone…and it is the promoting of these folks where the trouble begins. Their two strengths are knowledge/expertise and position power…and it is the over-use of power that creates the problem. I don’t think it is their intent to over-use position power. It is the only way they know how to get others to act. Respectful treatment and dignity are sacrificed to produce results and meet deadlines. Producing results (so I can shine/be promoted), telling, being right and getting credit are primary drivers. I don’t think I would like to work for this person….would you? I would be happy when they walked out of the room.
So here is the key: make sure the word “likeable” is used by others to describe you. Have you said these words: “that’s not what I meant.” Those words signal that your intent and your impact do not align. Trust and respect are now compromised, uncertainty and doubt emerge and your credibility suffers. Intent and impact must align. Listen, involve, ask, share, and appreciate those around you.
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